All or Nothing

Over the years I've really had to retrain this mindset of "all or nothing" in multiple areas of my life. 

Here's some examples of what I mean by "all or nothing": 
Clean the WHOLE bathroom floor to ceiling, or nothing at all. 
Make FULL dinners, with 2 sides and a dessert, or nothing at all. 
Make some kind of connection with ALL my friends and family, or no-one at all. 
Get a FULL body workout, or nothing at all. 
Read the WHOLE book, or nothing at all. 

You get the point right?

The reason this was such a damper on my life was because there were very few times I would achieve the "ALL".
I'm human, it happens. But for some reason I had this BIG expectation for myself to get it ALL done or it wasn't even worth doing. 
What an unhealthy way to live! There's so much to be said about that 10% and how it's helpful overtime. 
Of course setting expectations are good, and having goals (long and short term) are exceptional! But real life sets in and we have to give ourselves a break or the "ALL" will eventually break us.

Leaving this old mindset behind has given me SUCH freedom just in the fact that nobody is marking my every move and saying "OPE, wrong, you missed this so it doesn't count"
OF COURSE IT COUNTS!
Even the little things that seem mundane because overtime, they will turn into long term things! 
 
Again, it may take time. 
It probably WILL take time. 

But in the end, that freedom of less judgement on yourself for not getting it perfect, is such a delight! 

Right now, I'm working on computer stuff and OHHHH let me tell you that is NOT where I love spending my time. It's so frustrating and as much as I'd like to RUN to get to my destination, I'm learning to find satisfaction in the walk.
Little by little I know I'll figure things out. Just like I figured out a good rhythm with other things in life. 
I did what I could and I allowed myself grace in the process and before you knew it, I was in a habit. 

Every day is different. That's why it's important to become self aware. We might have more energy one week, we might have more things on our plates the next. It's a good habit to get into cleaning, prepping, sorting, etc, but it's even more so, to understand ourselves and simply allow what is. Focus on what we can do instead of what we want to do.
Somedays I've surprised myself with setting expectations and then going above and beyond that! It's a great feeling. But there's also times where I've set expectations and haven't even gotten close to meeting them. But I valued the effort I put in! 

One last thing to end on: Find gratitude in what you can do and how far you've already come! You'll see such beauty in your intentional living and will have the momentum to keep going when gratitude is in your heart. 

Good luck with finding your way to that AMAZING middle ground between ALL and NOTHING. It's a great place to be. 



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